3 Examples of How Reframing can Allow you to Make the Most of Anything

3 Examples of How Reframing can Allow you to Make the Most of Anything

Happy Wednesday Legends,

我最近在伦敦完成了培训,成为一名巴雷老师。培训长6周,需要20多小时/周的时间。我写了一篇文章how I almost talked myself out of ita few weeks back. But, the first day in, and especially now that it is behind me, I am so very glad that I didn’t!

部分原因我将从这个机会限制自己是因为对变革的恐惧是自然的。Our minds are wired differently than what often serves us, so even if you know some sort of change will be good for you, it is still in our nature to have some level of fear or uncertainty around it.

我的思绪在提醒我,我确实有这项业务跑,当时6周似乎很长一段时间从中迈出。但是,谢天谢地,我已经采取了一个非常为我服务的信念:We are always trading something for another…

If I am not putting energy into one thing, I am putting it into something else. There is no wasted energy. It’s a matter of what I prioritize at any given time. Sometimes I prioritize creating a lot, other times I prioritize taking in information to get inspiration. But whatever I lose in one thing, I gain something else with the other.

并赋予我所花钱的时间my own self-expert, I know that I have a much better balance when I split my time doing things I love with people in person (teaching) and doing things I love on my own (my work at LYL). I have had periods of imbalance between these two, and it has left me out of alignment, feeling burnt out, wanting to give up, etc. So, in a way, I saw my decision to join the training as a short term ‘sacrifice’ for long-term fulfillment. Though in reality it wasn’t a sacrifice at all because it was loads of fun and even though I was outputting more hours than normal to balance the two, it was only for a short amount of time.

所以,这是背部,但今天的话题是关于你如何使用重塑(简单地看看与另一个角度相同的情况的行为)来充分利用任何东西!

Prior to joining this training, I had spent 10 years teaching in San Francisco. Not only was I a teacher but I was a Master Teacher Trainer, meaning I trained all the teachers back home.So, given my experience, I could have gone into the training seeing it as something I already knew. I could have likely offered to bypass the training and ‘test out’ right away. And while I hate to admit it, if I am honest, my younger self might have approached it that way! But experience has taught me that when you learn to check your ego at the door, you can总是变得比你更多。

所以我把我的注意力仅仅因为这一事实e I had learned something one way, didn’t mean it was the ‘right’ way! More often than not, we adopt beliefs based on our surroundings, and then never think to challenge those beliefs. Our conditions, upbringing, geography, etc. create our beliefs (and our beliefs often dictate our lives!) but many of them we never actually came up with ourselves! Rather, they came as a result of where we happened to be at a certain time in our lives. How crazy is that?!

相反,我通过重新造成思维方式进入培训。而不是认为我已经知道了内容,而且它浪费时间,我决定将培训作为重新绕地雷的机会。任何时候主题或问题会出现,我的思绪对这个问题有自然的答案。我的意思是,我是多年来回答类似问题的人!但…

Just because I had been taught something one way, didn’t mean it was the only way…

所以我用这个过程作为一种方法来注意到发生了什么。我会对一个问题或主题有一种自然的反应,但这让我有机会注意到我的自然反应,并选择新的回复。当我想到它时,它是如此乐趣和如此酷的过程!我也从内容中学到了很多东西,因为,我显然有不同的角度和经验水平,而不是我第一次学到了这种材料,这让我能够在更深层次的水平上理解它。

Funny enough, I did end up testing out to teach after only two weeks of training but I still showed up every single day for the entire 6 weeks because this was an opportunity to listen, to learn, to grow.Because, we do naturally have reactions to the things around us: an automatic answer, fear, anger, pain, etc. However, while those reactions may happen automatically, how you respond to those reactions is in your control. I reframed the training as an opportunity to be practice being less reactionary and a more mindful version of myself, and I enjoyed every minute of it because I likely never would have set out that much time to do that.

所以,这里有几种方法可以让事情变得最大的东西!

1.将一切变成一个正念的实践

你必须做你不想做的事情,或者在你不想周围的人身边吗?是的,我们都这样做,这是生命的一部分。但使用这些机会作为更加谨慎的方式。注意到您对事物的反应反应。对你的想法感到好奇。在对某事物作出反应之前,请花这次倾听或练习暂停。然后决定,我希望这是我的反应吗?如果你没有,这是你面前的机会,开始训练你的思想对同一刺激的不同反应。

2. Think of Things as a Game

I have been working on getting a book published for quite some time now (thank god I wasn’t attached to a timeline!). There was a point where I felt burnt out by the whole thing. I wanted to give up completely. But then I realized it was because I was taking it so dang seriously.

Once I realized that it was up to me and me only to have fun throughout the process, I decided to think of it as a game. If I am playing a video game, it isn’t a life or death scenario. Which, ahem, may be the approach I previously had with this book.

In any game, if I make it to the next level, awesome, and if it is still enjoyable, I will carry on. If not I won’t.

我仍然将所有时间转到这一点,因为我看到那些在那里发表了书籍的朋友,在那里做他们需要做的事情来卖掉它们。我有一部分我想现在停止,因为我看到他们经历了促销过程,但我再次检查自己。我如何为自己的未来版本做出决定?

I have no idea how I will feel about promoting a book if I get one published (ideally it will be the book I think everyone needs to read, right?!) so why on earth would I talk myself out of something now, given I have no idea how I will feel if I ever make it to that level.

We play games because they are fun, they stimulate us and bring us enjoyment. And we do so until they no longer do that. This same approach can be taken with life…

3. Always be a Student

We don’t walk into organic chemistry class in university assuming we know everything, or thinking that we should know everything—we go there to learn! Yet, for some reason, when we get into adulthood we magically think we are supposed to know how to do things, and difficult things at that like navigating challenges, managing relationships, or building businesses and careers. We get down on ourselves if we feel lost and frustrated when we can seem to figure it out.

但是,如果我们在学生的方式接近这些事情,我们会怎么办。通过记住体验是获得专业知识的唯一方法。没有首先学习如何解决它们的过程,你有多少化学问题?甚至一旦你了解到了这个过程,你可能还有一些错误......

学习新技能,并适应改变如果我们可以停止殴打自己而不是已经了解了一切的答案,就会很有趣。首先失败是自然的,这实际上是进步的迹象!因此,无论何时何时挑战您,就会让自己提醒您只是探索该过程的学生。

And if all else fails, come back to your why…

我最近使用了一个mastermind studentthat is taking a course. He really wants to do it but it’s hard work. He is learning new skills, which can make us feel like crap, (because, as I said above, usually we aren’t that good at it right away!) but no one likes to feel like crap.

When I asked him why he was taking the course, it came down to the fact that it would allow him to be more efficient at his job and therefore spend more time with his family. Valid reason!

但是当你面前的所有人都感觉到垃圾时,就很容易忘记大局。所以,有时我们需要提醒自己走出自己的方式,所以我们实际上我们能够记住为什么我们正在做我们正在做的事情。我知道如何这样做的最简单方式之一是重新定义我们知道会更好的事情in the long run as things we are doing for the people we love. We will do more for others than for ourselves so I advised him to call the course by his child’s name rather than the name of the actual course, because that’s really the reason he was doing it anyway…

我们会看到它的工作原理,但我知道想到更大的图片帮助我再次在我面前导航障碍。

我很乐意听到你的伙计们,你如何重新懊悔的情景或情况,这可能是令人沮丧/无聊/悲惨的,并将它们转向最大。

在下面的评论中告诉我!

否则,这是通过充分利用任何情况来重塑您的世界,

- 切尔西德insmore.

P.S. Last week we announced that we createda bookin Scott’s name, a dream he had always hoped to accomplish. We launched a version to LYL members only as once we create an Amazon version the price will go up. So if you want to guarantee yourself a copy at the insiders only price (which expires September 30th), check out the这里的完整细节!



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